Conflict, social support and relationship quality: An observational study of heterosexual, gay male and lesbian couples' communication.

Data from 42 heterosexual, 46 gay male, and 33 lesbian couples were used to assess the contribution of conflict and support discussions to relationship quality. Couples completed questionnaires, and videotaped discussions were coded for levels of negative and positive behaviors. Correlations showed that behaviors were associated with relationship quality in the expected directions. Hierarchical linear modeling analyses assessed the unique contributions of individual and dyadic behaviors to the variability of relationship quality. The findings indicated that, beyond the contribution of individual negative behaviors in the conflict task, the variables of dyadic positive behaviors in the conflict task, individual positive behaviors in the support task, and perceived help accounted for unexplained variance in relationship quality. There were no differences between types of couples on levels of behaviors or on their contributions to relationship quality. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Early development of relationship quality in heterosexual married, heterosexual cohabiting, gay, and lesbian couples.

33 heterosexual married, 34 heterosexual cohabiting, 41 gay, and 47 lesbian monogamous couples who were living together and did not have children living with them completed a demographic questionnaire, the Dyadic Adjustment Scale, and a relationship beliefs inventory. Comparisons were made among the 4 types of couples at 3 stages of relationship development—blending (Year 1), nesting (Years 2 and 3), and maintaining (Years 4 and 5)—on 5 dimensions of relationship quality: agreement, satisfaction with affection and sex, low tension, shared activity, and beliefs regarding sexual perfection. Findings show that the type of couple did not interact with stage of relationship. Married couples reported less tension than heterosexual cohabitating couples, and a curvilinear relation was found between stage of relationship development and satisfaction with affection and sex, shared activity, and beliefs regarding sexual perfection. The absolute difference between partners' scores varied only by stage of relationship. Blending partners' shared-activity scores were more similar than those of either nesting or maintaining partners. Results suggest that stage of relationship is a robust predictor of relationship quality. (22 ref) (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Psychologists' attitudes toward gay and lesbian parenting.

How does the average practicing psychologist view a gay or lesbian couple wishing to adopt a child? Psychologists (N?=?388) from across the United States read and rated 1 of 6 vignettes describing a couple interested in adopting a 5-year-old child. The vignettes were identical except that the couples' sexual orientation was depicted as gay male, lesbian, or heterosexual and the child was either a girl or boy. Results indicated that participants who rated the gay male and lesbian couples with a female child were less likely to recommend custody for these couples than participants who rated the heterosexual couples. Before psychologists provide mental health services to gay and lesbian people and their children, they should complete formal, systematic training on sexual diversity. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Adult romantic relationships as contexts of human development: A multimethod comparison of same-sex couples with opposite-sex dating, engaged, and married dyads.

This article presents a multimethod, multi-informant comparison of community samples of committed gay male (n=30) and lesbian (n=30) couples with both committed (n=50 young engaged and n=40 older married) and noncommitted (n=109 exclusively dating) heterosexual pairs. Specifically, in this study the quality of same- and opposite-sex relationships was examined at multiple levels of analysis via self-reports and partner reports, laboratory observations, and measures of physiological reactivity during dyadic interactions. Additionally, individuals in same-sex, engaged, and marital relationships were compared with one another on adult attachment security as assessed through the coherence of participants' narratives about their childhood experiences. Results indicated that individuals in committed same-sex relationships were generally not distinguishable from their committed heterosexual counterparts, with one exception--lesbians were especially effective at working together harmoniously in laboratory observations. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Preadoptive factors predicting lesbian, gay, and heterosexual couples' relationship quality across the transition to adoptive parenthood.

The authors examined preadoptive factors as predictors of relationship quality (love, ambivalence, and conflict) among 125 couples (44 lesbian couples, 30 gay male couples, and 51 heterosexual couples) across the 1st year of adoptive parenthood. On average, all new parents experienced declines in their relationship quality across the 1st year of parenthood regardless of sexual orientation, with women experiencing steeper declines in love. Parents who, preadoption, reported higher levels of depression, greater use of avoidant coping, lower levels of relationship maintenance behaviors, and less satisfaction with their adoption agencies reported lower relationship quality at the time of the adoption. The effect of avoidant coping on relationship quality varied by gender. Parents who, preadoption, reported higher levels of depression, greater use of confrontative coping, and higher levels of relationship maintenance behaviors reported greater declines in relationship quality. These findings have implications for professionals who work with adoptive parents both pre- and postadoption. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Interpersonal phenomenology as a function of sexual orientation, sex, sentiment, and trait categories in long-term dyadic relationships.

Studied homo- and heterosexual relationships with the Extended Personal Attributes Questionnaire (EPAQ) as modified by the interpersonal perception method (IPM). Ss were 20 gay male, 20 lesbian, and 40 heterosexual couples. The F+ scale of the EPAQ accounted for greater congruence among IPM perspectives than any of the other EPAQ scales (M+, M–, F–). Positive EPAQ scales showed more consistency among inter- and intrapersonal perspectives than negative scales. Homosexual partners perceived themselves more similar to each other on the F+ scales than did heterosexual partners. Ss with female partners had higher expectations and greater accuracy in these expectations than those with male partners. Differences within the interpersonal phenomenology of heterosexual couples found in an earlier study by the 2nd author and W. J. Friedman (see record 1984-01263-001) were fully replicated. Treating the M and F scales of the EPAQ as instrumental and expressive traits rather than masculine and feminine sex roles, as suggested by J. T Spence and R. L. Helmreich (see record 1982-12888-001), clarifies the interpretation of these results. (75 ref) (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Gender, topic, and time in observed demand–withdraw interaction in cross- and same-sex couples.

The demand–withdraw interaction pattern has been extensively studied and consistently linked to relationship quality in cross-sex relationships, but it has received little study using observational data in same-sex relationships. Demand–withdraw behavior, which occurs when 1 partner makes a complaint or request for a change and the other partner avoids the request or withdraws from the discussion (Christensen, 1988), was observationally coded in the problem-solving interactions of 75 (20 unmarried lesbian, 15 unmarried gay male, 20 unmarried straight cohabiting, and 20 married straight) couples. Results revealed that same- and cross-sex couples engage in demanding and withdrawing behaviors in highly similar ways. For all couples, partners demanded at a higher level during their own issue than during their partner's issue, and withdrew at a higher level during their partner's issue than during their own issue. Women demanded at higher levels than men, and men withdrew at higher levels than women. All partners were more likely to be in a demanding role during their own topic than during their partner's topic. Polarization was greater in woman-selected than in man-selected topics. Demanding increased over the course of the interaction, whereas no time effect was found for withdrawing. Higher levels of each partner's demanding were associated with lower levels of their own withdrawing and higher levels of their partner's withdrawing. Finally, higher levels of total demand–withdraw behaviors were associated with lower levels of relationship satisfaction for all couple types. Implications of results for refinement of models of demand–withdraw behavior are discussed. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Developmental changes in relationship quality in gay and lesbian cohabiting couples.

Changes over 3 annual assessments were examined for both partners of 61 gay and 42 lesbian couples on current levels of attachment, autonomy, and equality in the relationship; the importance of attachment, autonomy, and equality in an ideal relationship; and relationship commitment. Lesbian partners rated ideal equality as more important than did gay partners; for both gay and lesbian partners, the importance of ideal attachment decreased over time; and for lesbian partners only, the importance of ideal equality changed curvilinearly over time. For both gay and lesbian partners, changes in relationship commitment over time were explained by changes in the discrepancy between current and ideal levels of equality as well as between current levels of attachment and current levels of autonomy. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Interaction of sex role self-concept with relationship quality and relationship beliefs in married, heterosexual cohabiting, gay, and lesbian couples.

Examined the relationship between sex-role self-concept (masculine, feminine, undifferentiated, and androgynous) and relationship quality and dysfunctional relationship beliefs among 44 married (mean age 29.68 yrs), 35 heterosexual cohabiting (mean age 28.68 yrs), 50 homosexual (mean age 31.28 yrs), and 56 lesbian (mean age 31.18 yrs) couples. Ss completed questionnaires on demographic and background information, the Bem Sex-Role Inventory, a relationship beliefs inventory, and relationship quality assessments. Individual partner analyses revealed that relationship quality and relationship beliefs differed by Ss' sex-role self-concept. Androgynous and feminine Ss reported higher relationship quality than masculine and undifferentiated Ss; androgynous Ss had fewer "disagreement is destructive" beliefs than feminine Ss; and androgynous Ss had fewer "partner cannot change" beliefs than undifferentiated Ss. Couple analyses showed a relation between partners' sex-role self-concept only for the heterosexual cohabiting couples. For these couples, masculine men tended to pair with feminine or undifferentiated women, and androgynous partners tended to pair together. Relative to other couples, those in which one or both partners were androgynous or feminine reported the highest relationship quality; couples in which one or both partners were undifferentiated or masculine reported the lowest. These effects did not vary by type of couple. It is concluded that sex-role self-concept is a robust factor in appraisals of relationship quality. (19 ref) (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Three-year follow-up of same-sex couples who had civil unions in Vermont, same-sex couples not in civil unions, and heterosexual married couples.

This study was a 3-year follow-up of 65 male and 138 female same-sex couples who had civil unions in Vermont during the 1st year of that legislation. These couples were compared with 23 male and 61 female same-sex couples in their friendship circles who did not have civil unions and with 55 heterosexual married couples (1 member of each was a sibling to a member of a civil union couple). Despite the legalized nature of their relationships, civil union couples did not differ on any measure from same-sex couples who were not in civil unions. However, same-sex couples not in civil unions were more likely to have ended their relationships than same-sex civil union or heterosexual married couples. Compared with heterosexual married participants, both types of same-sex couples reported greater relationship quality, compatibility, and intimacy and lower levels of conflict. Longitudinal predictors of relationship quality at Time 2 included less conflict, greater level of outness, and a shorter relationship length for men in same-sex relationships and included less conflict and more frequent sex for women in same-sex relationships at Time 1. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Réalité actuelle des couples homosexuels: Implications cliniques en contexte de thérapie conjugale.

Despite the fact that a large number of homosexual couples seek professional help when confronted with marital difficulties, relatively little knowledge is available to psychologists working with these clients. Although gay and lesbian couples greatly resemble heterosexual couples on most of the conjugal dimensions, it seems that same sex couples do have a unique reality to their sexual orientation. The present article constitutes an innovative synthesis of the actual knowledge concerning therapeutic intervention with gay and lesbian couples. First, the specific motives for these couples to seek help are discussed (i.e., issues related to homophobia, the lack of conjugal models, the "coming out" process, and the influence of socialization). Then, changes relating to issues relevant to some same sex couples brought to theoretical frameworks in psychology are explored. The frameworks that we examine are psychoanalytic, adlerian and cognitive behavioural. Finally, issues associated with HIV are discussed given its importance for die homosexual population and its impact on gay couples. This article, far from wanting to stigmatize even more homosexual couples, aims to support psychologists in their reflection and search for adequate interventions with this population that still... (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Gender issues in counseling same-sex couples.

The gender biases and sex role attitudes of the therapist can have a profound effect on the therapist's understanding of and responses to gay male and lesbian relationships. This influences the therapist's work with individual gay male or lesbian clients, as well as with same-sex couples. Yet these biases and attitudes often go unrecognized. In this article I identify four potential pitfalls for the therapist: stereotyping, heterosexual bias, the overemphasis on sex roles in understanding intimate relationships, and the difficulty of working with "hidden populations." Previously published data from research on same-sex relationships are presented to suggest how gender may influence these relationships. Guidelines for recognizing and expanding the therapist's frame of reference in working with gay male or lesbian couples and individuals are suggested. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Issues in therapy with gay and lesbian couples

Gay and lesbian couples differ from heterosexual couples in ways that may have implications for therapy. Until recently, research in homosexuality dealt only with "curing" it. Since the 1980s, however, psychotherapy with gay and lesbian couples has received more attention. The literature in this area is seldom criticized or questioned; thus, much of the most recent research in the area is founded on assumptions about gay and lesbian couples that have never been tested empirically. This article critically reviews the literature concerning differences among gay, lesbian, and heterosexual couples and presents the therapeutic implications of these differences.     

Pioneers in Partnership: Lesbian and Gay Male Couples in Civil Unions Compared With Those Not in Civil Unions and Married Heterosexual Siblings.

This study compared 212 lesbians and 123 gay men who had civil unions in Vermont (during the first year legislation made this available) with 166 lesbians and 72 gay men in their friendship network who had not had civil unions, and also with 219 heterosexual married women and 193 heterosexual married men consisting of civil union couples' siblings and their spouses. Married heterosexual couples had been together longer and had more traditional division of labor and child care than did lesbians and gay men in both types of couples. Lesbians in civil unions were more open about their sexual orientation than those not in civil unions, and gay men in civil unions were closer to their family of origin than gay men not in civil unions. This is the first study on same-sex couples with civil unions, and the first to compare lesbians and gay men with their married siblings. At a time of legal changes for same-sex couples, these results indicate that legalized same-sex relationships are related to visibility of same-sex couples to their family and the general public. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

The nature and predictors of the trajectory of change in marital quality for husbands and wives over the first 10 years of marriage.

Four parameters of the trajectory of change in marital quality (initial status as well as linear, quadratic, and cubic patterns of change) were estimated for husbands and wives over the first 10 years of marriage (n?=?522 couples at Year 1 and 93 couples at Year 10). Both husbands and wives started their trajectories of change at fairly high levels of marital quality and showed a cubic pattern of change such that marital quality declined fairly rapidly in the early years of marriage, stabilized, and then declined again. Whereas individual-differences variables predicted the initial status of the trajectory, husbands and wives living with only their biological children showed a steeper decline in marital quality than husbands and wives living without children or stepchildren. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Longitudinal effects of conflict behaviors on depressive symptoms in young couples.

This study investigated relationship dynamics contributing to gender differences in depression by testing longitudinal associations between observed conflict behaviors and depressive symptoms in young couples. Direct effects of psychological aggression, positive engagement, and withdrawal, as well as indirect effects via relationship satisfaction were considered. Participants were 68 heterosexual couples involving men from the Oregon Youth Study who remained in a stable relationship across at least 2 and up to 10 years from their early 20s to early 30s. Hierarchical linear modeling was used to test both between-couples differences in symptom trajectories predicted by partner behaviors and within-couple covariation between behaviors and depressive symptoms across 5 time points. Higher levels of women’s positive engagement predicted lower symptom levels for both partners, and higher women’s withdrawal predicted higher own symptom levels. Relative increases in couples’ psychological aggression and decreases in positive engagement were additionally associated with increases in women’s symptoms over time. Whereas between-couples behavior effects on women’s symptoms were mediated by relationship satisfaction, within-couple effects proved independent of satisfaction. Implications for mechanisms of depression risk and maintenance in couples are discussed. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

The link between facets of neuroticism and dimensions of relationship commitment: Evidence from gay, lesbian, and heterosexual couples.

The link between six facets of both one's own and one's partner's neuroticism (anxiety, hostility, depression, self-consciousness, impulsiveness, and vulnerability) and two dimensions of one's own relationship commitment (attractions to the relationship and constraints against leaving the relationship) was examined for both partners from 33 gay, 40 lesbian, and 70 heterosexual couples. With controls for other facets of one's own and one's partner's neuroticism, only one's own depression was negatively related to one's own attraction commitment. Findings from mediational analyses were consistent with the view that one's own depression exerts its effect on one's own attraction commitment through two dimensions of one's own attachment style (positivity of the self and positivity of the other). (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Lesbians choosing motherhood: A comparative study of lesbian and heterosexual parents and their children.

Compared 15 lesbian couples and the 3- to 9-yr-old children born to them through donor insemination with 15 matched, heterosexual-parent families. A variety of assessment measures were used to evaluate the children's cognitive functioning and behavioral adjustment as well as the parents' relationship quality and parenting skills. Results revealed no significant differences between the 2 groups of children, who also compared favorably with the standardization samples for the instruments used. In addition, no significant differences were found between dyadic adjustment of lesbian and heterosexual couples. Only in the area of parenting did the 2 groups of couples differ; lesbian couples exhibited more parenting awareness skills than did heterosexual couples. The implications of these findings are discussed. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Division of labor among lesbian and heterosexual parents: Associations with children's adjustment.

This study compared lesbian and heterosexual parents' division of household labor, satisfaction with division of labor, satisfaction with couple relationships, and associations of these variables with psychological adjustment of children. Participating lesbian (n?=?30) and heterosexual (n?=?16) couples all became parents by using anonymous donor insemination and had at least 1 child of elementary-school age. Although both lesbian and heterosexual couples reported relatively equal divisions of paid employment and of household and decision-making tasks, lesbian biological and nonbiological mothers shared child-care tasks more equally than did heterosexual parents. Among lesbian nonbiological mothers, those more satisfied with the division of family decisions in the home were also more satisfied with their relationships and had children who exhibited fewer externalizing behavior problems. The effect of division of labor on children's adjustment was mediated by parents' relationship satisfaction. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)     

Relation between neuroticism and dimensions of relationship commitment: Evidence from gay, lesbian, and heterosexual couples.

The link between one's own and one's partner's neuroticism and components of one's own relationship commitment (perceived rewards, costs, match to ideal standard, alternatives, investments, and barriers) was examined for both partners from 61 gay, 42 lesbian, and 155 heterosexual couples. With controls for the other Big Five traits, one's own neuroticism and one's partner's neuroticism independently predicted costs, match to ideal standard, and alternatives. The link between one's neuroticism and these dimensions of one's commitment was mediated by one's life satisfaction, whereas the link between one's partner's neuroticism and these same dimensions was mediated by the partner's conflict resolution styles. It is concluded that neuroticism affects personal dedication to a relationship through both intrapersonal and interpersonal pathways. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)