Competing selfobject functions: the bane of the conjoint therapist

The sheer ferocity of competition over needs rarely exhibits itself more than in the consulting room of the conjoint therapist. While cognitive and behavioral therapies may short-circuit this process by negotiating each partner's "fair share" of wishes and responses, such approaches circumvent the examination of the source of such dire competitiveness. Furthermore, they leave the participants with little depth of understanding of what each so vehemently has at stake. In this realm, the psychoanalytic perspective lends a unique vantage point by helping us understand the depth of unconscious need provoked among marital couples or otherwise committed partnerships.     

Review of Trauma and human existence: Autobiographical, psychoanalytic, and philosophical reflections.

Reviews the book, Trauma and human existence: Autobiographical, psychoanalytic, and philosophical reflections by Robert Stolorow (see record 2007-07947-000). The author discribes his book as a “project (that) has occupied (him) now for more than 16 years” (p. 45) starting six months after the tragic death to metastatic cancer of his 34-year-old wife Daphne (“Dede”) Stolorow, on February 23, 1991. His book exemplifies a value, deeply shared by the author and his late wife, that of “staying rooted in one’s own genuine painful emotional experiences” (p. 46). The volume is very dense (50 pages of text, total), the product of 16 years of intense and sensitive reflection. It condenses in very short order the history of his intersubjective perspective on developmental trauma, (the outcome of invalidating malattunement in the “parent–child mutual regulation system” lending to unbearable affect states in search of a “relational home”), his theory of the phenomenology of trauma (the shattering of “absolutisms of everyday life”), trauma’s temporality (trauma freeze frames the past and the future into an eternal present), and, finally an analysis of the ontological or universally constitutive aspect of trauma in our lives. (PsycINFO Database Record (c) 2010 APA, all rights reserved)